Retiring Negative Thoughts

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What is it going to take to step into the next greatest version of myself?


This is a question I’ve asked myself throughout the year, as I’ve realized that what has brought me this far, won’t necessarily support me in taking the leap to becoming who I strive to be… i.e. an even more loving, giving, and impactful version of myself. 

You see, while I’m incredibly grateful for my life and where it is today, I believe that life is all about growth and expansion, and only we can hold ourselves back.

According to Dr. Joe Dispenza (the author of “Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself), 95% of who we are is a memorized set of behaviors, emotional reactions, and hard-wired beliefs that play out in our minds and in our lives – on repeat.  

For me, and I imagine all of us, a portion of that 95% are thoughts and patterns that serve us in being happy, motivated, and fulfilled, while a more than ideal amount of our thoughts are rooted in fear, pain, and insecurity – which cause suffering, and get in the way of our health, happiness, and effectiveness. 

According to research, our core beliefs are developed in childhood (through pivotal events that shape the way we see ourselves – and the world), and in order to change them, we need to have the courage to face them, and reframe them.

If you are ready to retire your negative beliefs and replace them with more empowering ones, here are some great questions to ask yourself:


  • •What thoughts/beliefs/behaviors prevent you from going after and/or living the life you want?  
  • •Where did each of these thoughts come from and when was the 1st time you experienced/adopted them?  
  • •When, specifically, do these self-limiting thoughts come up for you today? 
  • •What positive thoughts or beliefs would be more supportive for you, instead of the stale frustrating ones?


While easier said than done, once we have a better understanding of our core limiting beliefs, where they came from, when they come up, and how they are affecting us today, we can spot them when our mind starts going THERE, and remind ourselves that we don’t have to go down those same rabbit holes…because they are NOT us, just one of many thoughts we have and have applied meaning to many times throughout our lives. 

Does this help and/or resonate?  I’d love to know (and be of any support).

Wishing you a beautiful week of clarity, growth, and supportive beliefs.

Much love,


To hear what lingering beliefs have been holding me back, and what I am doing to work through them, check out Episode 241 of People Being Real!